How to Accessorize Your Wrinkles
Curate, Elevate & Own Your Own Style
DEAR DAMES
“It’s happening. My wrinkles have RSVP’d to the rest of my life, and my college jeans? Let’s just say they’ve moved on to a better place. Truth is, I still care about how I look — but I don’t want to show up looking like one big sigh. I want to age with sass and sparkle, not surrender. How do I keep my sense of style without feeling like I’m trying too hard… or giving up completely?”
– Still Got It (Somewhere) in Sarasota
Dear Still Got It (and Honestly, You Never Lost It)
Aging boldly isn’t about defiance—it’s about delight.
Those fine lines? They’re not flaws, they’re footnotes to your best stories. That extra curve? She’s earned her seat at the table! This chapter of life isn’t about dressing your age—it’s about dressing your energy. So, put down the shapeless cardigans and pick up something that says, “I’m still in the game—and I look good playing it.”
Let’s get you styled in a way that makes you feel like the main character.
“I dress the woman I am today — not the one I outgrew.”
— Gabrielle Union, We’re Going to Need More Wine (2017)
Ingredients
- 1 well-tailored wardrobe that fits who you are now
- 2 tablespoons of confidence (generously applied)
- A splash of curiosity—style evolves, and so can you
- A pound of commitment to comfort – life’s too short to wear anything that pinches.
- Optional garnish: a signature scent, bold lipstick, or fierce frame-worthy specs
Instructions
IMPORTANT NOTE: Comfort is non-negotiable – but let’s be honest – living in pajamas 24/7 doesn’t exactly send the message you want. You can be at ease and still look like the heroine of your own life story by focusing on a few key details.
STEP 1: BEFORE YOU ZIP, BUTTON, OR DRAPE – START HERE
Great style begins with what you don’t see. Comfortable, well-fitting undergarments aren’t just about support—they’re about self-respect.
Invest in pretty pieces that feel good against your skin and remind you that you’re worth the upgrade.
Whether it’s a smoothing bra that lifts more than your spirits or undies that stay put without a fight, your confidence deserves a strong foundation (literally).
You’re not dressing for someone else – you’re dressing for the woman who’s earned every curve, wrinkle and stretch mark.
STEP 2: CURATE A CLOSET THAT CHEERS YOU ON
Build a wardrobe of thoughtfully chosen (and flattering) items that mix and match for endless options. Think essentials:
- The Go-To Layer: Picked cropped denim, a buttery-soft Moto Jacket that says “I’ve lived a little – and still evolving.” Don’t forget pockets!
- The Statement Shirt: the perfect shirt should feel like you, only slightly more polished. Maybe it’s cotton with contrast stitching, a silky floral with French cuffs, or that gauzy tunic that moves like a breeze.
- The Effortless Dress: Not just your “go–to” but your go-everywhere. Flowy or fitted, midi or maxi –it should shimmy into brunch, errands, and evening cocktails with just a change of shoes and a swipe of lipstick.
STEP 3: GREAT JEANS, BOLD DREAMS, AND ONE FABULOUS FINISHING TOUCH
Reserve baggy jeans and sweatpants for gardening or cleaning out the garage. Instead, opt for these go-to pieces:
- Dark Wash Jeans: Mid- or high-rise, fitted just right. Skip the over-distressed denim—you’ve already weathered your share of life’s rough patches. No need to wear manufactured hardship on your thighs when you’ve earned your resilience the real way. Choose a clean, flattering cut that feels effortless and honors your journey.
- Tailored Dark Trousers: Some days call for something a little sharper. A great pair of fitted dark trousers brings instant polish—without sacrificing comfort. Perfect for milestone celebrations, board meetings, or simply showing up for yourself with style. Bonus points for a bit of stretch: because power moves feel better when you can still breathe.
- The Statement Piece: Whether it’s a pair of earrings that catch the light (and a few compliments), a scarf that tells a story, or a handbag that turns heads and holds snacks—your statement piece is less about trends and more about identity. It’s the exclamation point at the end of your outfit’s sentence.
READY FOR MORE?
If this chapter gave your confidence a little strut and your wardrobe a second wind, just wait until you see what’s brewing in the full volume. From life recipes and real-talk reflections to even more style tips that go beyond the hanger—we’ve only just unzipped the garment bag.
Volume 1: Confidence Brewed Boldly is steeped with stories, strategies, and sass from women who’ve been there, done that, and aren’t done yet.
Pull up a chair, pour another cup, and meet us in the pages. The Dames are saving you a seat.
TEA WITH THE DAMES
Volume 1: Boldly Brewed with Confidence
…is NOW AVAILABLE!
Trust your taste… make magic.
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